A couple of years ago, I looked back and saw the path that I had begun to go down, and I didn’t like it. In 2005 I came off of the road full-time and came on staff at a church full-time. It was a pretty good transition, to be honest. I actually LOVE what I do. I consider myself blessed. Just a little background on me if you’re new: I continue to travel on a part-time basis, leading worship & speaking at conferences, retreats, and events; while also consulting w/ creative, programming, worship teams.
Anyone that works at a church full-time knows that we can tend to go, go, go, go, go… to the point of leaving ourselves and our families drained, worn, and burned out. This should NEVER happen, but it does. Many of my friends have eventually left ministry to find a more balanced and healthy family life. What??? This is jacked. Sometimes it’s okay to say “no”.
I find that we tend to not allow ourselves to “let off the gas” due to a performance expectation. Great leaders will do their part in observing those around them, to sense how balanced their work (ministry) and family (personal) lives are. If the proper attention is paid, it doesn’t take much to gauge how each other is doing. Obviously, finding balance is just one of many ways to prevent burn-out and as one, it’s a great first step toward a journey of health, passion, and peace.
Here’s hoping & challenging us to prioritize our lives. Pastors, if we’re burned and drained by our responsibilities at work or at home, we’re ineffective. It would be amazing if we were to able to see staff turn-overs slow down and stability restored in our ministries.











Chad Jarnagin
Kyle Reed
October 25, 2010 at 8:47 am
Thanks for being honest with this.
What I am realizing is that it starts early. So even for someone like myself who is not married and has kids I can still be very intentional about my time and priorities. For me what has happened is I have become very concerned with doing and not just about beng.
Great reminder
Whit Stiles
October 25, 2010 at 8:47 am
Over the course of my life, I have witnessed many people in ministry fail to minister to themselves. No one ever wants to sit on a plane where the pilot is exhausted, yet it seems perfectly acceptable for those who guide us spiritually to fly ragged. In fact, I’ve been a part of churches where expectations of ministers by the tithe-paying congregation was so unreasonable that nothing shy of running ragged was acceptable. Just another way we see corporate culture infiltrating our spiritual culture when it should be the other way around. But I digress…
Thanks for your thoughts, Chad.
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Randy Elrod
October 25, 2010 at 9:16 am
Chad, very important. I like the word rhythm better than balance for some reason, but the idea you are championing is vital!!
Thanks!!!
Randy
John
October 25, 2010 at 9:27 am
Thanks for the reminder Chad. I found this to be the case as I served as the Technical Team lead man at out church for a year and a half. After stepping down from that role, though still serving, I realized how absolutely ridiculous I was being about my schedule. I was out serving 6 out of 7 nights a week as well as maintaining a full-time job.
Thank the Lord for waking me up to the importance of rest.
I’m still learning to balance working hard and not letting my time with God and rest fall by the wayside.
mandythompson
October 25, 2010 at 9:47 am
Ironically, I love how short & simple this post is… :)
alece
October 25, 2010 at 1:49 pm
balance feels like such an elusive thing. like a losing battle. choosing to focus on one thing in an effort to find/maintain balance is, at the same time, a choice to “cheat” on something else. it is physically impossible to give equal parts of ourselves to things and people all the time.
i like randy’s word “rhythm”. i think striving for a healthy rhythm, with waves of focus on various things, is a more attainable goal than the ever-ambiguous “balance”… our rhythm is determined by the seasons of our lives and our days, as each will call for a specific focus on certain activities, passions, and people. but with rhythm also comes the awareness that while a certain thing is getting primary attention right now, everything else happening in our lives is of equal value to the overarching “song”. nothing is excluded, they just receive different amount of attention and volume at different times.
i feel like i just long-windedly rambled to try to make sense of what’s in my head. sorry about that.
Chad Jarnagin
October 25, 2010 at 5:16 pm
Thanks for your comments and time… Obviously, this is a topic of a much needed reminder. Alece (& Randy), YES! I’m more into the term “rhythm” more than balance. I guess I chose “balance” as a word so that more people would get the point. I sometimes struggle to articulate clearly to others that are not as creative as I like to process. LOVE these thoughts… Kyle, Whit, Randy, John, Mandy, Alece…
Thanks for letting me process out loud. You all do it so well.
Tyler Smith
October 29, 2010 at 9:33 pm
Good thoughts Chad. Well said reminders.